Proverbs 22:6 says – “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
This is advice that we should take seriously, advice that is emphasised in Deuteronomy 6:6-7 where we read: “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”
This past two weeks I have been preparing for a talk which is aimed at helping Mums to understand what they can do to counter some of the unbiblical teaching their children may be exposed to at schools around the topic of relationships and sex education. In looking for resources for church youth leaders and parents, I have been quite surprised at the limited Christian resources that fully address same sex attraction and sexuality from a Christian perspective. (I am happy to be corrected on this matter and if anyone has found some useful resources please do email firstname.lastname@example.org to share these with us).
I want to encourage you, as parents, that now is the time to rise up and courageously uphold God’s standards of holiness and righteousness as you talk about sex and sexuality with your own children. This may fill you with fear and trepidation, you may feel ill equipped to talk to your child, or you may feel it’s easier to go the way of the world than to stand up for God’s truth, but it is of prime importance that you take responsibility for this area of your child’s education, rather than rely on the education system to do this for you. We want to help you with this, please do get in touch if you would like advice or prayer about this.
But what about churches, we too have a responsibility to our young people to speak out and teach God’s word?
We are in a situation in the western world where we:
1. Are inconsistent in applying God’s word to sexual stewardship of our bodies.
2. Often fail to talk about God’s love for all, especially when it involves the LGBTQ+ community.
3. Often fail to talk openly about sex and sexuality with our children.
4. Offer poor or non-existent pastoral care for anyone who struggles with sexual sin.
5. Lack awareness of the challenges and benefits of singleness and champion marriage as the ideal.
Church leaders and parents, could you turn this around this and change a generation? Wouldn’t it be great if we could counter the five situations above, so that we were in a position where:
1. God’s word is applied consistently, and everyone thinks theologically about sex and sexuality.
2. We talk openly about God’s love for all communities including the LGBTQ+ community and openly discuss the challenges different communities face.
3. Every child understands God’s love and will for their life and for their sexuality.
4. There is support available in churches and external ministries for those who struggle with sexual sin and there are easy ways to access support as a parent without guilt or shame.
5. Singleness is seen as a positive option and those who choose singleness are celebrated and included within the family of Christ.
We believe now is the time to train our children well and bring them up recognising God’s design for their lives and understanding the importance of pursuing holiness in their relationship with the Lord. As such we, as a Ministry, are currently seeking to compile a list of resources to help you to have these conversations with children and teenagers.
Please contact us directly if you would like to have a conversation about this or share what resources you use either at home or within your church environment so that we can review them with a view to including them in our list.